Art of becoming a >> b a b e <<.

Why does it serve your relationships to fill your own needs by yourself?

Have you ever secretly wished for someone else to come and fill your desperate need? 

And when it didn't happen, you found yourself to be bitterly disappointed?

Yes, that was me.

Before I understood the secret of actively filling my own needs.

I'm still in that early stage of learning the art but I'm already seeing the fruit of this trade.

Here's why it's so powerful for you.

When you secretly wish for something, no one else knows about your desperate need.

No one else feels the void you're facing.

No one else senses the feeling it spreads over your whole body.

And no one else understands why you feel hurt, lonely and abandoned.

They only experience your bitterness like a taste in their mouth that they don't want to swallow.

That's why actively seeking the "how" answer for filling your own most desperate needs is so powerful for your relationships.

It loosens you up.

You're much more relaxed to be around.

Your company feels like the fresh Spring air.

Delightful, refreshing and vibrant.

Now you might think "but how can I fill my own needs, shouldn't it be someone else who does that"?

So, let's think about babies for a second.

How they cry, kick and scream occasionally.

And that's how you know that they need something.

But we're not babies.

And we don't want to be.

More likely we want to be  b a b e s.

Those beings who even walk so lightly and happily that their people just want to walk with them, where ever they go.

Babes like that don't whine about things, they makes things happen for themselves, to feel fulfilled.

And that's their secret for spreading that atmosphere they spread around them.

A thought of becoming and being more of a that kind of babe just feels joyful to even think about.

Here's what you and I can do.

When we set that magic question  h o w  in front of us, we can start seeing the unseen opportunities to fill our deep needs.

We find before so secret streams where we can fill our cup to overflow.

We find those magical moments, and even if they were five seconds, minutes or more, they send electric waves of bliss throughout our body.

The message of >> I am being taken care of << floats into your every cell.

The thing is, that when you ask yourself the how question, you start seeing that it's not so complicated to get your needs met.

Because you are a master of knowing how you feel, what you think and what exactly you desire.

You understand the value of you yourself being the number one active person in your life filling your needs.

And through all the practice you get better and better at it.

Start with the little "how"s and let yourself to be amazed at how much they can fill your soul.

Let it be simple for you.

Let the search be fun.

You knowing you and learning to serve your own needs is just magical.

Love,

Pia

*Photo credit to my dear friend Katia 💕