Have you found yourself, after making bold moves, from a messy situation?
Courageous choices often affect our lives like that.
Here's what I've learned that has helped me to make the most of those messy phases.
I have started clarifying to myself what is really important to me and what is not.
Weighing more seriously the choices you have before you make them can radically shift one thing.
At least it has for me.
Bold yes when you know you just love the decision you're making and it fills a deep desire within your purpose makes the messy part an adventure.
So the secret is to what and even more
w h y are you saying yes.
Because someone desperately asked you and you didn't have the heart to say no?
I've been there.
Over time it didn't serve me in the long run, although I learned a lot about myself.
Or did you make the choice because of what other people think about you?
Been there too and it felt devastating to deal with the mess I never really wanted myself.
It changes so much when the ownership of the choice is yours.
And even if you made the choice from motives that shot you on the leg, you can learn so much when you choose to.
The best thing I've learned from those kinds of choices has been how clarity helps me to make the choice for me.
And I'm not saying that discounts the value of choosing to help others.
I highly value helping others and have seen what it does to my heart.
How it helps me to expand my perspective.
The key is still, why I choose that option.
When I sincerely see it as a privilege to lend a hand, the mess where I find myself in feels like a full life.
The biggest danger easily lies in the choices that look good from the outside but deep down you know you didn't make them from the right motives.
You might end up wasting your time, which you never get back, on things that don't really matter to you.
Being bold when making big choices looks like you making the choices you know really matter in your life.
This prepares you to fully live in the messy phases and to take it all in.
The good, the bad and the ugly.
While in the mess, you just know that it's the deeply meaningful mess that has your name on it.
And you will come to the other side of it stronger, wiser and with more perspective.
And the bitter aftermath of the messy parts loses its poisoning power over you.
Instead of complaining you choose to see the end reward.
Who you are becoming through it all, as this is the path that looks like you.
This part of the mess prepares you to the bigger shoes you want to step into.
As you clean the mess, it can be seen in your eyes how you see beyond it.
And that's just beautiful.
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