Beautiful disrupting decisions from within

If I've learned something valuable, it is this.

Doing things from a deep sense of peace that dwells within, is a place where I want to forever be.

Several times I've done bigger and smaller jumps that from the outside for sure look foolish, reckless or somewhat out of place.

Those decisions were born from that deep sense of inward peace and trust.

And if you know me, you know that I tend to worry and tremble, as much as anyone who is drawn to imagine unwelcome outcomes.

But what matters is which reality you let dominate you.

The things you see are valuable in the secret and worth embracing the uncomfortable unknown or the days of doom you imagine.

For me the key ingredient in all this, when the outside & inside pressure meets my hopeful heart is this.

 

Abiding peace that overshadows any inner conflict.

I might not even intellectually know why I do something, you see.

And this could be seen as the very reckless ingredient in my decision making.

But if you're an intuitive person or deeply know someone who is, you know what I'm talking about.

Even if in your season intuition is not leading you, it's raising its head in the secret.

Something is marinating.

How do you know then if something is worth the risk?

For me these factors have been helpful.

🦋  know your story

🦋 trust the person, you know deep down you're becoming

🦋 count your past similar success stories, that took a huge risk and took you where you are now

🦋 surround yourself with friends who see the version of you you're growing to become

🦋 take time to be in the quiet

🦋 ask vulnerable questions

🦋 receive

Hugs,

Pia

Eyes to see what you'll cherish

 

This week, while our move between two continents gets closer, I am reminded of this one thing.

How important it is for me to recognize what I will afterwards cherish.

And that way I can make space for it.

I can lean on those opportunities.

I will say yes to this and many no's for the other stuff.

A lot of our lives are spent decluttering.

And mostly in our minds.

When things are heavily shifting you see it even more clearly.

You cannot just let life go forward on autopilot.

You'll need most of your brain actively working.

Even when things stay the same, you and I can choose to stand up.

To choose what we give our attention, energy and affection.

Those things will thrive in our lives. 

Even if the start was muddy and hard.

Usually planting new things is like that.

But the garden of your inner world will at some point come to fruition.

You'll be able to taste the sweetness of what you cultivate in your lifestyle.

In your everyday actions, your rhythms and your tiny habits.

There's more stored up for you and to find your way there, sometimes you need to give up on a lot of other good things.

For the great thing to have space to grow, your focus to thrive and lots of compassion when the days are still young.

There's so much power in the small beginnings.

Love,

Pia

*photocredit to my dear friends Katarzyna & Katia*

The bold yes and embracing the messy

Have you found yourself, after making bold moves, from a messy situation?

Courageous choices often affect our lives like that.

Here's what I've learned that has helped me to make the most of those messy phases.

I have started clarifying to myself what is really important to me and what is not.

Weighing more seriously the choices you have before you make them can radically shift one thing.

At least it has for me.

Bold yes when you know you just love the decision you're making and it fills a deep desire within your purpose makes the messy part an adventure. 

So the secret is to what and even more  

w h y  are you saying yes.

Because someone desperately asked you and you didn't have the heart to say no?

I've been there.

Over time it didn't serve me in the long run, although I learned a lot about myself. 

Or did you make the choice because of what other people think about you?

Been there too and it felt devastating to deal with the mess I never really wanted myself.

It changes so much when the ownership of the choice is yours.

And even if you made the choice from motives that shot you on the leg, you can learn so much when you choose to.

The best thing I've learned from those kinds of choices has been how clarity helps me to make the choice for me.

And I'm not saying that discounts the value of  choosing to help others.

I highly value helping others and have seen what it does to my heart.

How it helps me to expand my perspective.

The key is still, why I choose that option.

When I sincerely see it as a privilege to lend a hand, the mess where I find myself in feels like a full life.

The biggest danger easily lies in the choices that look good from the outside but deep down you know you didn't make them from the right motives. 

You might end up wasting your time, which you never get back, on things that don't really matter to you.

Being bold when making big choices looks like you making the choices you know really matter in your life.

This prepares you to fully live in the messy phases and to take it all in.

The good, the bad and the ugly.

While in the mess, you just know that it's the deeply meaningful mess that has your name on it.

And you will come to the other side of it stronger, wiser and with more perspective. 

And the bitter aftermath of the messy parts loses its poisoning power over you.

Instead of complaining you choose to see the end reward.

Who you are becoming through it all, as this is the path that looks like you.

This part of the mess prepares you to the bigger shoes you want to step into.

As you clean the mess, it can be seen in your eyes how you see beyond it.

And that's just beautiful.